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What does your child need to do to be a social talker?
FORM - HOW CHILD TALKS
- Single words
- Two to four word combinations
- Appropriate grammar
- Strings sentences together
- Dialog-back and forth
- Monologue - one way.
CONTENT - WHAT CHILD TALKS ABOUT
- Activities and events
- Concrete facts
- Ideas (abstract)
USE (PRAGMATICS) WHY CHILD TALKS
- To initiate talk with people
- To respond to others' talk
- To get needs met. or help.
- To get attention.
- To self to accompany activity
- To socially connect with others
- To give information
- To get information
- To enjoy being with others
- To show he is listening.
- Makes approximations to words
- Individual words are clear
- Strings of words are clear
- Repeats when misunderstood
- Imitates your speech with clearer speech
- Makes up own words-jargon
APPROPRIATENESS OF TALKING
- Relevant to situation
- Responsive to what others say
- Knows when to talk and when not to talk.
- Waits his turn when others talk.
- Talk fits emotionally to the situation.
- Bazaar or inappropriate talk.
- Talk is off the topic
- Interrupts others' talking
- Rote or memorized talking.
- Talks at more than with people.
- Repeats words unnecessarily.
- Unclear or mumbled talking
- Self-centered talking
- Short unelaborated talking.
WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP YOUR CHILD TALK SOCIALLY FIVE STRATEGIES
The following are ways to help your child become a habitual social talker.
- The goal is not more language itself but more communicating with language.
- Start with the strategies below that come most easily for you.
- Try one or two as you play with your child, then watch how he responds.
- Keep doing the ones that work with your child.
- If certain ones seem uncomfortable, do not push yourself. There are many different ways to be effective.
- Try new strategies when little is happening with your child.
- Determine success by what results in more communicating.
- The goal is for your child to talk more frequently and in new ways.
- Be patient and feel energized by every new word. However small it seems, it is important for your child.
- Communicate in ways your child can try to do.
- Talk about what you child is immediately doing.
- Act like a "living dictionary"; put a word on what your child sees and does.
- Talk about your child's interests.
- Avoid using more words than your child can say.
- Talk not only to be understood but also to show your child what to say.
- "Match up" by giving your child one or two more words to say.
- Show child new words to say about current things he talks about.
- Show child how to extend a topic
- Show child how his words can become sentences.
- Understand that each of your child's actions can become a word.
- Give your child a word for his actions and experience.
- Treat your child's experiences as his most important first words.
- Focus on teaching words for what your child already communicate nonverbally.
- Translate your child's actions into words.
- Translate your child's sounds into a word.
- Respond more too positive than negative talking.
- Avoid criticizing your child's language; show him what to say instead.
- Respond to a word with a short sentence.
- Return child to the topic when he strays.
- Do not respond to inappropriate or undesired talk.
BE BALANCED AND RECIPROCAL
- Say one thing then wait for child to respond.
- Talk in a give and take turn taking style.
- Wait with anticipation for child to respond.
- Allow child to initiate talking; silent waiting helps.
- Avoid dominating turns with child.
- Prevent child from talking in monologues.
- Make sure you and your child talk about the same topic.
- Communicate more like a game of ping-pong than darts.
- Follow your child's topic lead about half the time
- Encourage your child to stay on your topic about half the time.
- Keep your questions to less than 50% of your talking.
- Keep directions and command to less than 50% of your talking.
- Make more comments than questions and commands.
- Silently prevent child from interrupting.
- Discourage your child from dominating the talking.
BE EMOTIONALLY PLAYFUL
- Play with words in enjoyable ways.
- Make talking a part of your child's play.
- Accept any words your child says without criticism.
- Show child a new way to talk playfully.
- Practice turn taking games with words.
- Pretend play with words.
- Make talking more like fun than a job.
- Avoid pressuring child for a certain word.
- Avoid making talking a test for your child.
- Be animated in your talk.
- Act out the words you use.
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